It’s one of our biggest fears.
I reckon it starts from when we are young and you do something great in class or at sport and the adults make a fuss of you and then the reactions of others from your peers who don’t want to be happy for you for their own reasons.
Then it keeps carrying on throughout your life where you get to a place where you’ll never blow your own trumpet because the fear of being shot down, teased, ignored or bitched about is just too emotional to deal with.
Then when you do have something and someone comes up to congratulate or make a positive comment you, you play it down.
I did it yesterday.
A friend told me she liked my new haircut, instead of saying ‘thank you, me too’, I went into oh this and oh that. Sheesh, I thought I was over this behaviour.
Clearly not… and as I type this I think I’ve just had an AHA moment.
Have a friend say something nice to me about my business life and career – definite thank you.
Have someone say something about me physically, still some work. Sigh.
Right, so today, because I’m such an important person in your life :-), I give you permission to be awesome.
I give you permission to tell me all the things you are proud of about you.
I give you permission to tell me how happy you are with your life.
I give you permission to be earning so much money you never have to want for anything.
I give you permission to be so happy in your chosen career that you know you are changing lives by waking up each day.
I give you permission to be made of teflon and have such an awareness that if someone doesn’t live and breathe your happiness with you, that they still have a ways to go in understanding what good comes to you if you can be truly happy for others.
I give you permission to be awesome.
Please take this opportunity to say the one thing you fear to say the most here in the comment section. Get it out of your head.
Love
Amanda
I give myself permission to be AWESOME at my work. I give myself permission to love my body.
Thank you Amanda for an awesome blog post
Woohoo! Thank you Caitlin. I love your work and I love your body and how much you love it. You are an inspiration to thousands xxx
Amanda,
I REALLY needed that.
For me, I’m afraid to stand up and be awesome, because I worry that people will say “but remember that time when you were crap” … and then I think. Yep. Not ready to be awesome yet. I’m still too close to the crap.
I think I need to print out those permissions and hang them on my wall. And look at them every single day.
Kapow!
Awesome post
K x
This is what our human does to us Kathryn. It’s like “oh yeah, you are right, this is how things suck”, instead of refusing it time in our today. I think you are awesome. You know how much you changed my perception about a couple of things. Yes, print them out and laminate them and put them in all the spots that you get to see it every day. 🙂
Thanks, this is a great one, and one which (like so many others) I’m having a personal struggle with right now.
So instead of just saying how my feet are great, and my ears are pretty cool, and how I just LOVE my mind… I’m going to say that all round, I’m great, my life is pretty cool and I just LOVE myself. My whole self. Bits of me are still prickly and sharp and a bit toxic, but they are AWESOMELY so. 🙂 And quite large bits of me are really nice, and awesomely so too.
Thanks, Amanda, I do need to love myself more, and accept myself and allow myself to be awesome… and part of that is allowing others to be awesome too. So, all you lovely awesome people, thank YOU for being awesome.
Hugs,
Pauline
Actually, I’m reviewing this one again in the light of having someone in my house / life who cannot accept statements of awesomeness, even when meant in jest. Eg: character on TV says “I just enjoy your company”, second character responds with “well, I am quite charming”; person in question visibly bridles and looks affronted and makes noises to make the point of “he’s got a big head”.
I’ve questioned this response – many times so far – which gets protestations of “no, I’m not really like that” when plainly she is. I’m currently trying to ignore this, and there are reasons this person and I share a house… but it’s hard!! Any thoughts on how to successfully ignore this, or how to program my mind to bypass this response and allow my inner awesome to shine would be gratefully appreciated!!
Hiya, Foyster! Okay, I’m doing this because you asked but you and I are already both well aware of my awesomeness, and yours too, of course. 🙂
Hi Amanda – your words are reverberating away…my awesomeness takes a dive when I change direction…and oohhh how awesome I was in early life to put myself down and giving myself a hard time. !
Now I am aiming to be awesome in sensuality for the mature woman!
Cheers Di