So recently I had a feeling that my heart was being ripped out of my chest and the pain associated with grief and the loss of what might be was almost debilitating.

For those of you who know me, and or have been reading my blogs for a while, I’m your positive motivational mate who has done all the hard work to ensure that this kind of stuff doesn’t get a look-in in my life.

It’s important for you to know that I COULD do ‘misery guts’ as well as anyone, however I choose not to.  I choose not to, for one second, think of something I don’t have versus what I do.  

With this feeling last week, I was a bit mystified as to what the hell was going on, and even allowed myself a thought of ‘yeah, if I thought about it, I could describe myself as lonely’, and then sat in that, as a thought, for a second.  #NB that thought for me is a shit thought and would have once upon a time put me into a state of depression.  

Good news though, nothing twigged in my body or my brain or energy to say, “yup, this is your shit” because I’m good with my loneliness and have been for YEARS…. So I instantly asked “is this my pain?” and when I asked that, this person who I’ve known for 14 years flashed into my head.


We spoke about it, and then decided that the best way forward, so I could have my heart back, was to do the Hawaiian Ho’Oponopono visualisation technique which would cut all ties between us.

Now, if fear was going to kick in, now would be a good time.  14 years and cutting ties and we still share a loving friendship – holy crap, I better be doing the right thing….

To say that I have been released, provided a freedom I have not experienced in my adult life would be an understatement.

So, if you feel like an emotional bucket of goop, I want to recommend you go and listen to my radio show, which I co-host with Juli DuBois and go through the technique from Episode Eight – you won’t know yourself.

I hardly recognise myself and my friendship is safe as houses.  Let me know how you go with it!