We are all human. Especially if you are reading this and you don’t have glow in the dark tendencies and a very “natural” looking ant suit in the cupboard that you only bring out when there is no moon.

Being a human usually comes with a story.

If you are doing personal development work at any stage, you usually get your story out on the table and work from there. What serves you, what doesn’t. Mostly the things you want to change get the top of the list real estate.

Allowing other people in your life to be who they are, letting their life play out in front of your eyes, even if that life is intrinsically entwined in yours, can be one of the hardest things to do.

When you have a maze of entwined togethernesses and the one still chugging away on the “I’m not an animal” (said in Elephant Man voice from the movie of 1980) is struggling, and you are the ‘enlightened one’ who doesn’t want to send the backhoe down the ravine because you forgot to put the handbrake on first {watch this for the message}, it can be painful.

My message to anyone who is living through something like this collection of metaphors and semaphores is that it’s ok to feel your pain and to make sure that the backhoe driver doesn’t force anymore of their chugging onto you.

Find your voice and speak your truth.  Even if that includes, “get lost I have my own shit to work through now, and don’t you dare add my shit onto your shit to make out like you have more shit than everyone, I will look after my own shit; go and stand in the corner, face the wall and shut up. Love you.”

Go through your own emotions based on where you find yourself in the cycle of your life and get through it and come out the other side.

This is especially important where grown ups are involved.  I’m still out with the jury when it’s children.

Breaker-breaker 1-9, this here’s the Rubber Duck… do you copy me Big Ben… Come-orn.