Attention all men and women who are sexually active and if not would really like to be…first of all, sorry about the hideous generalisation on the title, but I need to grab some attention….stick with me and read this blog slowly and with every ounce of PTC – present time consciousness – you have.

I need you to spend a bit of time here with me in the name of research.

Recently, the self empowerment program I co-founded with a colleague and friend in the United States – The Goddess Imperative – evolved the radio show we do each week into discussions around sex and intimacy.

We knew that we would be opening a can of worms by doing it, but had agreed we’d be prepared to go where it will take things because it was time to get the discussion out on the table.

This is where I can definitely say that energy flows where energy goes, and the Universe – which loves speed – will show you things in your life that you haven’t healed and help you heal them.  You can read my blog on Rejection which took me 4 days from awareness to breakthrough and healing.

So, back to the radio show….since doing that, and especially last episode, I had a facebook friend and also industry colleague Krishna Everson from Healthy Marketing write a blog about her take on what we’d been speaking about in relation to the difference between bears and wolves.  Bears being a correlation in nature that they mate with many each season and people who aren’t monogamous. Wolves being a correlation in nature that they choose a mate and mate with them for life – so therefore monogamous.

A chap we also share blogs with also came into the discussion with a males perspective, which was truly an open, honest AND compelling read to understand his take on it.

He helped validate my opinion that a person might be classified a bear, but as a human they have the ability to choose to be a wolf.  You are only responsible for yourself and your decisions.

Then another blogger in my circles posted an article about re-building trust in a couples relationship. Do you think it is possible to re-build trust in an intimate relationship where one partner has sought intimacy outside of the relationship?

Then the last blog I read, which inspired me to write this blog smacks me in the forehead and my heart rate doubled I think.  This blog is written by a woman on Why Men Cheat and is my inspiration behind the title of this blog, because after reading it I got to validate my opinion that I had 18 years ago when I ended my relationship with my first husband because he just couldn’t keep it in his pants outside of our marriage.  

Please know that I do not share the opinion of the title of this blog anymore through the stellar amount of work I have done on self awareness, my own journey around why I attracted what I have into my life.


I would love to have an open and honest dialogue from all the men and women in my life about this topic.  I want to open up the Goddess Cafe Radio show to bring in these scenarios where people go into a situation where trust, communication and self awareness must be paramount.

I am coming from the premise that no one is perfect.  We’ve all made poor decisions at some point, and if you could have your time over again would you do it again the same way?  

I seek to understand what level of self awareness people are coming from when it comes to sex and intimacy. 

Is there a place for generalisation? 

Is it time for us to go ‘this is me’ and live in accordance with your truth and let other’s live in accordance with theirs?

Where do you stand on the topic?

Where do you fit into the big picture?

Let’s get this discussion going!!