Dementia… it’s nasty and it’s horrible and a really cruel way for someone to die. I saw my Grandad go through it, and visiting him in the RSL home he lived in, having lunch with him at a table of people aged from 65 – 88 having a grand old conversation about completely different things each while watching a 56 year old woman walking around in circles in the room making noises because she’d completely lost the ability to speak sentences. Yes, you read that right, 56. She could still feed herself though.
My Grandad died of Dementia some 9 years ago now and it took a long time for that to happen.
This morning I posted on my facebook page about my beliefs around Dementia, and why it and Alzheimers exist and it didn’t go down so well with someone who works in the industry. So blog about it I shall.
My blogs usually start with Why, but today, I’m going to ask a bigger question: What if?
THE THEORY
Dementia and Alzheimers are the body’s way of helping a person to die who is PROFOUNDLY afraid of dying. The brain cells start to die to implement a new state of “being” for the patient, to take them out of their reality. In my work with the Emotional Strength Training, life events cause pockets of emotion that undealt with cause overwhelm, illness and chronic disease. In this case, the emotional trauma causes brain cells to start dying.
OTHER EMOTIONAL THEORY LEADERS
Louise Hay’s book Heal Your Body A-Z lists it as “Refusal to deal with the world as it is. Hopelessness and anger.” She also lists the brain as the human’s computer, the switchboard.
Caroline Myss also has a great understanding of emotional work around health and there’s also great work with Neuro Emotional Technique.
SO LET’S INVESTIGATE MY GRANDFATHER’S JIGSAW PUZZLE
What I learned about him in the 33 odd years I knew him was that he was someone who enjoyed daily solitude. He was very religious before he went to war, and he saw the Padre have his head blown off in front of him while hiding in a trench in the Middle East, and he explained to me that that was the day he stopped believing in God, yet he gave my sister and I bible story books when we were babies and told mum she must read them to us.
What dawned on me when I learned the possibility of dementia being something the brain manifests to help those profoundly scared of dying, Grandad was religious and REALLY angry at God for a long time, death means you have to go and meet God, and the religion he grew up in was around the God that judged and smote those who breathed through their left nostril on the wrong day of the week, of course he was scared to go and ‘meet his maker’ because he’d been angry for a long time. “What would God think”.
Now, that’s the foundation, he had other bits included. He used to have a tall-y (large bottle of beer) on the go from 10am in the morning while he worked in solitude on his orchids in his greenhouses, until bed time. So alcohol would also have been a factor – again, used to mask the anger at life, just like any addiction, it takes you out of having to deal with foundation things. His dementia accelerated quickly also because his diet was very poor and when he was placed into quality care, the acceleration stopped being on MACH 3 and just went back to being something you’d lose 3 points on if you got caught on the M1.
There is more, about his life and choices, but for today’s lesson, that’s the biggy and hopefully enough to pique your interest.
WHAT IF:
What I would love to happen in the biggest scheme is that if you are reading this and you are one PROFOUNDLY, let me say that again, PROFOUNDLY frightened of dying, if you have EXTREME beliefs around God and the chance that He is going to send you to purgatory or hell, that you will do some personal development work around that belief system and do some research about what the Pope is talking about these days, he’s a really cool Pope. If you have PROFOUND fear about getting an illness that is going to cause you to suffer and suffering is just so abhorrent to you, do some personal development around that.
Often it is going to come back to life choices and trauma that you have had in your life, and by working with someone without an agenda, in a non-judgemental situation, by speaking your concerns, you will be starting the ball rolling to free yourself of the emotional burden.
If you are reading this and you are in the medical industry, and can sense the intent with which I am writing this shows clearly that I am a friend of science, I would dearly love for you to start asking the questions of your patients who present early. Asking the question when the time is right, when you have built a rapport with them, when they feel at ease and that they will not be judged, especially around being forgetful and that they have something ‘wrong’ with them, ask them the questions about their life in general conversation.
What if, by asking the question in a clinical situation, you as a specialist in this disease, can start to see the patterns from the emotional stand point that may lead to the unexplained death of brain cells? What if you see the patterns? What if you set up a clinical trial and change medical history for the greatest good of humanity?
What if you were to engage someone like me with my emotional strength training therapy, or an EFT practitioner or anyone who specialises in the natural therapy of energy work to work with your clients to measure their outcomes?
What if you were able to change awareness for people who have these fears and it reduced the incident of dementia over decades so that our facilities weren’t so over burdened and the staff worked to the ground because there’s no room for all the people to get quality care?
What if?
As I suggested in my facebook post, science is injecting mice with all manner of random things in existence in the hope that something will show up as a way forward. This work I am speaking of here today is just opening a dialogue. Truly it is. No needles required. There may be some ugly snot producing crying, but never any needles, beakers or heart monitors.
What if me speaking about this is the catalyst for change?
What if it finally did become about patient outcomes and the mind set ‘do what it takes’ and the option being put forward is just opening a dialogue?
What if?
Thanks for reading
Amanda
It’s a good thought, Amanda. I mentioned this possibility to my mum, who is terrified of getting dementia or alzheimers. She reckons she’s not afraid of dying, however her behaviour while dad was dying would seem to suggest there’s a bit of fear there… maybe not an unhealthy amount though.
And if you’re provoking argument, they’ll be telling others about your thoughts, and at least people will start to maybe think about the emotional connection, so that’s a bonus, too!! 🙂
I read a study that suggested people who enjoy dark humor most likely end up with dementia. I think Louise Hay’s suggestion about not being able to accept the world as it is coincides with this train of thought. I can’t help but wonder since we live in a world that comedies and comedians can create laughter from tragic things and events, they are actually creating an epidemic in our society. Louise Hay suggests “the Universe doesn’t joke around”. So what we put out there to the Universe is what we get back. We laugh at something that is very cruel (because we’re considered stiff or over-sensitive if we don’t or find sick humor in suffering) then the cruelty comes back to us. Just a theory but I think one worth looking into.
Thank you, very thought-provoking.
Thank you very much for that insight Amanda. I’m 52 and have been told I have a predisposition to developing dementia. I’m a kinesiologist student so am looking for the alternative healing therapy and this has given me a good starting point to stopping it from developing. Take care,
Birgit,
If you go to my soundcloud account, there is an audio on there that helps you cut ties from a place of love. I would recommend doing that as a visual with your gene pool or family tree to help you kick your free will into play that says “I’m going to be the exception to that rule and will grow old with a happy, healthy, whole mind and body.” If you don’t feel a shift, I will be starting energy sessions again in the new year, towards the end of January. Book in and I will go and find any cellular memory and triggers and take them out for you.
Interested to see an entirely different approach.
I think it is wise to at least be open to other
avenues of thought.Thanks for the article.
Thank you for keeping an open mind with the information Mary. I am grateful you’ve taken the time to read and leave a comment.
Very interesting perspective – thanks
Thank you for taking the time to read it Helen.
HI Amanda, my ex husband has been diagnosed with the disease at 65 years of age. He constantly had a refusal to accept life as it was. He had/has an acute fear of death, was cold and unemotional, and constantly sought perfection in everything including me. I wanted to encourage him to ‘talk’ and let go long before the diagnosis but he would not. I think acceptance of life and of others as they are is key and yes, dealing with childhood trauma. I had my share of childhood trauma and I have, in the last four years, had many healing modalities to ‘change’ the way I viewed what happened. I now have a different understanding and I feel “at peace”. Thank you for your interesting article. The disease, as you say, is equivalent to a tsunami and I am sure more and more research will reveal how we must learn to ‘let go’ and ‘accept’ what is, together with an understanding of how major traumas can affect our brains – slowly causing damage – as the years tick by.
Thank you Tracey. I am so glad that the article resonated. Thank you for sharing your journey with it as well. Peace is achievable before we die, and it sounds like you are on the right path for you.
I am very interested to find the WHY, what if you are right, my husband has dementia, he is in care, he always said you die when your time is up, he is inclined to be angry. Does not believe in God.
I will think about your ideas, I will ask others, lots of people in our country have one of the dementias, I belong to a group of carers for their partners I will ask. Thank you Amanda.
Thank you for taking the time to read and asking the question Maureen. Perhaps when someone doesn’t believe in God that means their life goes to nothing, and that notion frightens them so severely they can’t cope with the concept. Wishing you peace in your journey through this part of your life.
Thank you so much for this blog. I have only just stumbled across it and for me. the timing is perfect. I accept your ideas completely. It is timely for me because I am embarking on my own healing journey and am just now finding out how the body and mind deal with emotions that are too painful or scary for us to acknowledge consciously. Thank you again for your bravery in sharing your wisdom.
Thank you so much for your time and open minded approach to this delicate subject Lynda. Yes to your comment too, I teach the Anatomy of Awareness and it’s so important to acknowledge the cellular part of our healing – the healing attached to our soul. Sending you love and clarity in your journey. Amanda
Amanda, i love your perspective. In addition to Louise Hays’ belief, the inability to cope with life as it is and hopelessness, you offer the idea of how people see what they’re about to face potentially and that is what is causing hopelessness and inability to cope- with what’s coming. And, in order for someone who believes they are going to purgatory or hell, it certainly behooves someone to clear up the “wreckage of their past” before they pass. And,perhaps that may alleviate dementia and the overcrowded facilities.I absolutely agree this is a pivotal piece of the puzzle. The key is to implementing the process. Yes, if they are in a place of non-judging, they may be more apt to talking, but to sell this idea to those before the dementia starts or that they’re in a facility, that’s the tough sell. I hope with research and proof that many may need to believe this would help them prevent worsening, I foresee this as a difficult, but extremely necessary part. My own mother won’t even talk about her feelings to me or my sister. She lost her husband last year and her drinking has escalated to the point of consequences. Denial is very strong to protect the brain. I myself have been sober for many many years now. I’ve gone through my steps and this is exactly part of that process. I was able to heal from my past. It changed my life immensely as it did on my spiritual and religious beliefs! I have grown in great strides and continually work on my spiritual development. But I am willing and that is the essential key here. I would love to see progress develop where people can go through this type of process of healing and who knows what could be the amazing and wonderful outcomes! Thank you for opening the conversation. Hopefully it will continue and get more acceptable and used as preventative medicine! ❤
Chara,
Thank you for taking the time to read and share your story with me. I’m grateful to you for that.
I am grateful to have found your writings. My dad died in 2017. My parents met when my mother was 5 and my father was 9. My mom was molested by a family friend as a young child and her parents did not believe her when she told them. My father took great risks with money and hid it from my mother always – she always was afraid, anxious, depressed, scared.
My friends recently said “The Universe is giving you an opportunity to discover the essence that is your mother underneath the problem that you think she is.”
My experience is that teacher plants help with fear of death.
Such a big topic this!
Love
Thank you so much for finding me Liesl. Your friend is right – it will hopefully help you stay in empathy as things start to shift to ‘harder to handle’. The one thing I would also offer you is the chance to recognise where some of your fears, that you may not have understood in your life, or those things you have attracted into your life, have come from. Especially given you know your parents story. Make sure you are doing plenty of meditating and understanding soul agreements so that you can heal yourself and break any patterns that could be likely – like preventative emotional medicine if you like. There’s some audios on my soundcloud account that you can download and listen to about protecting your energy and releasing things as well. These are all public access. Thank you again for arriving here. Much love to you on this adventure back to your truth. <3