Why fantasy isn't all dragons, unicorns and self-replacing tim tams. - Amanda Foy

Why fantasy isn’t all dragons, unicorns and self-replacing tim tams.

One of the key elements of my spiritual development, especially since I decided to plunge myself into the self-employed ranks, has been that “my kind of” spiritual is very grounded. I have always described my self as spiritual without the hairy armpits and dreadlocks.  There was a good reason for that – fear based of course – that’s another blog.

Not that there is anything wrong with hairy armpits and dreadlocks. That’s just not my gig.

Anyway, part of the journey was coming to have a really big need to be seen to be ‘serious’ and ‘corporate’ and at the same time talking about dead people, the Universe, Source, God, hearing and seeing and being able to clear people’s emotional overwhelm out of their energy system without even touching them, being able to see them, or know them for that matter.

While this did not sound at all woo-wooy to me, because you know, I was saying this in a pair of high heels and a smart dress with straightened hair and make-up on with my Guess hand-bag sitting under my chair, to some, it was really woo-woo.

One event I was speaking at, where I get everyone to hold onto a crystal to do a little bonding exercise at the end, one lady bolted from the room because in her belief system, I was delving into devil worship territory.

So, you see, it’s all relative and personal beliefs based on what you know or have been taught. Some believe it is fantasy, and some argue that religious wars are based on fantasy as they are really just seeing who has the best imaginary friend.

Today though, I am writing this in an effort to shut the door on misconceptions that spirituality la la woo woo is fantasy and real life is well, real life.

I’m going to say out loud, many people live in fantasy every day of the week and you don’t even know it.

Fantasy is not only the world of novelists like JR Tolkien, JK Rowling, or George RR Martin, and as much as many Australian’s would like it to be, it isn’t a packet of Tim Tams sitting in the fridge that every time you take one out it grows back straight away.

Here’s what fantasy is in a real every day context:

What do you build up in your mind as truth, but it hasn’t even happened yet?

That’s fantasy.

What maybe’s and what if’s and every other life speculation are you living with in your everyday?

That’s fantasy.

What’s in your here and now?

That’s real life.

How much of your here and now life are you filling with “maybe over there” fantasy?

I would hazard a guess that if you are reading this, a bit of your every day goes to your fantasy life of maybe’s, what if’s, could have’s, should have’s, didn’t’s.

The life that sucks so much energy from your every day experience because you are consumed with the future or stuff from your past.


Do any of these sentences sound familiar?

  • “Steve will think I’m too big for my boots if I tell him I want pay rise.” 
  • “I will lose my job if I complain about the sexual harassment I have to deal with everyday.”
  • “My family will be so disappointed if I don’t make a success of my life.”
  • “My dad will never speak to me again if I tell him I don’t want to follow in his footsteps and be a mortician.”
  • “I’ll never get a partner who is totally into me because I don’t have big enough boobs.”
  • “I heard he doesn’t like kids, he’ll never like me then.”

Fantasy – you are fantasizing about all the possibilities rather than living in your every day and just writing your story as you go, knowing that your real life, every day, right now, is perfect and what you want to make of it.

It’s all about stories. The stories you’ve been told, the stories you have created because of things you have seen, or outcomes for other people. Like my recent blog about loyalty, you aren’t being loyal to yourself by being loyal to all that other stuff, that is just PURE FANTASY.

Now, this is not to be confused with positive affirmation/intention work where you are you visualizing what you want in your life, and no you still don’t need hairy armpits, dreadlocks and tie-died moo-moos to do that either.

You can plan out the masterpiece and let the picture paint itself as the canvas is unravelled and ready to receive the paint.

Let me know one of your biggest fantasies you have been telling yourself in your life that’s stopping you from experiencing what you want. Oh and if you are wondering about the reference to Tim Tams, then watch this: CLICK

Remember, vulnerability is your friend…


  1. Manda… I read your article this morning and NEW I had to post something. But waiting a while to come back and give it justice. As you know, this is a particularly pertinent topic for me of late and it has so many facets that we could come from.

    The great esoteric author Dion Fortune stated so eloquently, “The descent into matter must be complete before the ascent into Spirit can commence.” What I find to be the most problematic with what you call the woo woo world of the Spiritual realm is that it’s INCREDIBLY lacking in foundation for most. Most think that it’s an “either/or” game… I suggest that it’s a “both/and.”

    As you know I’ve had a really strong pull toward mystical traditions and practices most of my life. But I cut my eye teeth at AT&T in management and their School of Business. And in 2009 my then company was awarded the coveted “Inc. 500” designation.

    My point is not to boast… for I of all people clearly know that it was something Greater than me coming through me (versus from me–big difference). But my point is that while I loved soaring into the realms of Spirit… I likewise knew the importance of keeping my feet firmly grounded in the sand. This ability to talk and live both Spirit and Form interestingly enough was something I was tremendously persecuted for during my trials. Rocks were thrown at me for “making money” in a Capitalistic society (go figure); and I was repeatedly attacked for saying I was “spiritual” while making money.

    Most who pursue “Spiritual Matters” which I place in quotes because IT’S ALL Spiritual… but by traditional definition, meditating and talking to Angels is traditionally spiritual which building a business is not. Anyway, those who pursue traditional Spiritual Matters have not fully “descended into matter” as Fortune so wisely stated. You may remember in one of my recent blogs on “Loving Life” I stated that “our Dharma/Purpose in the West is vastly different than the East. Our Dharma in the West is to take dominion over gross matter FIRST with our spiritual powers. More on this to come as this will quickly become a book. Keep doing good work. I appreciate you ~ JAR #jamesarthurray #jamesray #reallife #purpose #lifeorfantasy

    • Thanks for your input James. I have one comment to make based on societies inconsistencies. Catholic Church.

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