Around this time twelve months ago, I had a man who was and still is a manager of a government funded business support group play a practical joke on me under the ruse of applying for a $100,000 grant to help get my Goddess Intensive program off the ground and available to as many women around Australia as possible.
He called me to a meeting to explain what I had to do to get my submission in front of a decision making Minister. That meeting was only to cover up of the fact that he wanted to put a New South Wales State of Origin sticker on my car as a joke. We’d had a running commentary over the previous couple of years about State of Origin, as you do when it is the season.
He did not understand why I didn’t find it funny. When I received his text message, later that day, to go and look at my car, after being so excited about finally having the opportunity of putting my passion and purpose to AS MANY WOMEN AS I POSSIBLY COULD, to find the sticker and to realise the meeting was just all part of the joke and that there was no way I’d be able to get my proposal in front of the minister, I felt so violated and then angry that if I’d’ve had a pitchfork I would have driven it through the windscreen of his car.
Still though, it took me days to build the courage to respond to one of his fb messages how I really felt and then I cut all ties with him and the government funded group he represented.
Initially, I just wanted to go and stand in the corner crying. That someone could have thought so little of who I was, what I had done for the government funded business and also my passion to work with business women, to think it was appropriate or at the very least funny. A moment of anger flared where I thought I would report him to the Australian body who governs the business, but decided that I just wanted to accept the big stop sign and to go as far away as I could from that mindset. I truly was at a loss as to wondering if anyone in the hierarchy of that business would understand my point of view and how inappropriate it was and then just decided to disappear.
You see, this is why I am writing this today as I am three quarters of the way through Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, and this page struck me like a brick last night as I read it. I didn’t want to bring up gender. I didn’t want to make waves or be blanketed with the tar brush of trouble maker. If it was taken to the highest level, I didn’t want to be responsible for someone losing their job for disrespecting me and my business.
12 months on, with what has happened with Julia Gilliard and the constant unadulterated slathering she has copped bringing the gender issues to light, I have found a new vigor for standing up to the “establishment”. My gift and Juli’s gift AND point of difference, with a voice of reason.
Am I going to go back to where it all started with the business support business – not on your Nelly!
This Goddess is not stupid.
Am I happy to speak up and point out where women should stand up and be a very loud voice in our today, just screaming to be given a chance without all the descriptive generalisations that come with a women speaking up?
You bet your sweet arse I am.
Am I building relationships that will see our Intensive program go GLOBAL. Yes I am.
Am I, twelve months on, glad that that happened to me. Definitely.
Oh, yeah, and DOMIN8 Queensland. You know you can. Let’s let the Goddess have the last laugh shall we.
Added 18/07/2013: How’s that for apples AA. Oh and by the way, I’m off to the US in September to have my business grow to the global space I knew it would. What’s the best revenge? Being awesome. I win.